I'm watching monday night's episode of basketball wives and i can't really say how i feel about everybody yet.... But there's something going on here that doesn't sit well with me and i figured i'd write about it. So.....
This broad draya (who doesn't belong cuz um what? Basketball who? Yea, wives. Anyway) used to be a stripper. And when that news breaks they cut to gloria saying some nonsense about strippers being the enemy to the wives and whatnot... Then imani talks major shit about this girl and stripping... Ding Ding Ding! Guess what's bothering me! Hahahahaha! Anyhoo
Ok ppl, i get it, not everybody agrees with the profession, and for a lot of ppl, there just has to be some horrible reason to do it. I stripped/ danced for 3 years and i loved it. Ppl think i'm either weird, troubled or lying about that. There were days that i hated it, hated some of the ppl i worked with, hated the ppl i worked for, hated the customers, hated having to go in when i'd rather be home... But what's crazy is, when i worked at sears for 2 years, there were a lot of days when i hated it, hated some of the ppl i worked with, hated the ppl i worked for, hated the customers, hated having to go in when i'd rather be home.... Yea... It was a job And that's what happens when u have a job.
I've never agreed with the whole strippers ruining homes and being the cause of marraiges going bad only because u'd have to say the same about the human race. Men fuck up their relationships with more than just strippers and so do women. Female attention is available in and outside of a strip club so if ur mad at a stripper for being at work on the day that ur husband fucked up u should probably take a step back and ask him what he was doing there. I will never be the woman who blames the wife/ girlfriend cuz i feel like there was probably never anything they could have done to keep their man from doing them wrong. P.s. I hate when girls do that whole "if u kept him happy u wouldn't have to worry about him coming after me" some niggas just ain't shit when it comes to being faithful and u should never feel like u have to be any more or less than who u r to be worth his full commitment.
What this comes down to (i got a little sidetracked) is that u can't judge someone based on their job or their decision to go into a certain field. I mean, there r ppl going into the medical field who could care less about helping ppl... i think we should concentrate more on being respectable ppl. Having respectable ways of carrying ourselves and respecting who and what others truly r. It shouldn't matter what we do for a living. Everyone has a limit as far as what they'd be willing to do or what they'd do for however much money, but that doesn't make them any better or worse than anyone else. Being in the club, i've met dancers that were beautiful ppl, porn stars that were amazing friends, models that thought they were ugly, doctors and lawyers that were comeplete assholes and rich "respectable" men who were so insecure that it was hard to believe.
the subject isn't so sensitive to me simply because i was a dancer, it's because i've had ppl in my life that made it a mission to make me feel like i was less that the fantastic person that i am, because of my job. Ppl attempted to convince that i'm not worthy of respect or simple decent treatment because i chose a less than favorable career path. It was working there that made me really see what ppl in general r. It was there that i learned what ppl do when they care about u and when they could give 2 shits about what happens to u. There that i went thru my lowest period and made it back to who i know i want to be and i wouldn't trade it for the world. I wouldn't recommend dancing, i also wouldn't recommend working at sears, staples, 24hr fitness, in an office, warehouses, spinning signs on the corner or anything where u have to answer to someone. But out of the few jobs that i've had, it's my favorite the only one that i'd enjoy stepping back into.
Rambling (so what?)
i just can't stand when someone decides who a person is based on their job, or anything other than, well, who they r.
That is all.
